As 2021 ends, I want to take the opportunity to reflect on the things I am thankful for and the things for which I am sorry.
The sorry list includes the following:
I am sorry for not having enough patience with others.
I am sorry for not having a stronger faith.
I am sorry for letting people down.
I am sorry I have not used my time as effectively as I could.
I am sorry for not being more Christ-like.
I am sorry for becoming angry when I should not.
I am sorry I am not more grateful every day for all the good in my life.
I am sorry that I have not been as good a friend as I could.
The thankful list includes the following:
I am thankful I am free to worship God.
I am thankful for the love of my family.
I am thankful for the love and support of my wife.
I am thankful that I have grown up and live in the greatest country that has ever existed in the history of our planet.
I am thankful that Bryan Armstrong and Ignite Liberty give me the opportunity to speak. (Editor’s note: we are THRILLED that Dr. Jayne said “Yes”!)
I am thankful and amazed that anyone like you would have any interest in what I feel the need to say.
I am thankful for the trust my patients place in me.
I am thankful for my entire office staff that do the real work in my office. Diane Wright, Cristy McPherson, Gaola Christensen, and Colleen Robinson all deserve more than I can give them.
I am thankful for the other opportunities that arose this year that blessed my life.
I am especially thankful for our new church home. My faith is far from where it needs to be but would not be what it is today without the love and support from Fairview Baptist Church in Edmond.
I am thankful for all the materials blessings from God that have maintained my family for the last year.
I am thankful that I can continue to try to advance the human condition with God’s help.
I am thankful that through God we have hope for the future.
I am thankful for my friends’ love and support.
I am thankful for all the new people coming into my life.
I am sure my list is not very different from your list if you were to compile it. The purpose of my writing this is to encourage all of us to focus on the thankful items and develop more as we can. The sorry list is important as we should express our sorrow to the people we have hurt and ask for forgiveness. This is most important in our relationship with God.
Realizing the good in our lives and recognizing it is vital to giving us hope. Without hope, life loses it importance. Without hope we feel defeated. Where do we find the source of hope?
According to Bible.org:
What is hope? Is it a wishy washy maybe or a kind of unsure optimism? The modern idea of hope is “to wish for, to expect, but without certainty of the fulfillment; to desire very much, but with no real assurance of getting your desire.”
In Scripture, according to the Hebrew and Greek words translated by the word “hope” and according to the biblical usage, hope is an indication of certainty. “Hope” in Scripture means “a strong and confident expectation.” Though archaic today in modern terms, hope is akin to trust and a confident expectation.
Hope may refer to the activity of hoping, or to the object hoped for—the content of one’s hope. By its very nature, hope stresses two things: (a) futurity, and (b) invisibility. It deals with things we can’t see or haven’t received or both.
The only hope we can be certain about is what we receive from God through the Word. All good we experience in life is due to God’s blessings upon us and the qualities He has placed in us. The love and compassion we feel from our friends and family are the result of all the human traits God has instilled in us. When we all grow closer to God, these qualities improve in each of us, which improves our relationships. This can become a repeating cycle that will give us more hope and joy each day.
We are living in unusually stressful times. The future seems scary and overwhelming. Life really has always been like that. It did not seem that way because our future seemed more certain, and we felt that whatever we were suffering was certain to be short-lived and we would return to our course. Now we are adrift in uncharted waters and it is uncertain if we can make it back to our previous course.
It may well be time to set a new course. If we follow God, our final destination will be certain. The course of our lives that we follow to get there will be full of twists, turns, accomplishments, failures, successes, setbacks, elation, joy, sorrow, loss, and everything in between. It also allows us to GROW in Him. This is how our lives should be.
I hope this reflection was not boring or self-absorbed. We do have Hope.
I want to wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Blessed New Year. Lord willing (and Bryan Armstrong), I plan on continuing writing for you next year.
David Jayne, M.D.
Edited by Ann Jayne
Editor’s Note: Dr. Jayne will be contributing to our Wellness Wednesdays series for as long as he wants to. He is a blessing and an invaluable member of our team. We are deeply grateful for him!